When he was only a teenager, David encountered one of the most intimidating types of difficult people—the bully.
Bullies can be found in the workplace, at home, and in schools, and they usually frighten us with their physical strength, authority, or some other advantage.
Some were very hard to deal with, but I was fortunate that I had mostly good ones to look after me.
Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose. Not just ANY people, people with difficult personalities.
From the standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know: that man is here for the sake of other men.” ~ Albert Einstein So, you’re on a team. You can throw your hands up and scream every time these difficult people rub you the wrong way, or you can learn productive ways of working with them without going insane.
Sometimes, in order to maintain control without fueling The Bully’s flame, you will have to state your opinion clearly, succinctly, and directly and ignore their attempts at trapping you into an argument. To them, every idea is bad and every attempt at a solution to a problem will result in a negative outcome.
In dealing with difficult personalities within a team, face the fact that you will not win in a debate with this person. Negative Nelly thrives on when he/she can say the following words: I TOLD YOU SO, or, THAT WON’T WORK. The best way to deal with this difficult person is to avoid discussing solutions with them.